When I look at stuff on the internet about how to get laid, most of the time I end up seeing some really cringe stuff. Because of all this BS about this topic it can be difficult to know what direction to take and where to start to get better with women. This is why as a guy who used not to get laid and now does, I felt that I could give a unique and valuable perspective on this topic.
Start Hitting on a Ton of Girls
You may think it’s a joke, but I’m serious. The first step you should take is going to hit on girls and lots of them. Go hit on girls you find attractive, go hit on girls you find ugly. Just go hit on them.
And when I say go hit on girls, I don’t mean go “talk” to girls, I mean go talk to girls like you want to fuck them. Out of all the things that lead me to where I am today I think this is the most important one.
Why is it important to go hit on girls and to actually try your best each and every time?
It’s important because it is the only way to learn how women generally behave and how to behave around them.
What is going to happen initially? Well you will get rejected a ton because a lot of your “early” approaches will be sloppy, uncalibrated, or you would not be able to pick up on some socials cues that would then lead to some weird interactions, or you would not know how to move the interaction forward properly.
When you “mass approach” you will learn a lot of stuff about approaching women and how they react to different types of approaches and how they behavior change.
You will then subconsciously do things a little bit differently and better every new approach. You will also become desensitized to what people might think of you and you will care less and less about rejection and being seen as a creep.
This will result in you being more confident. At some point (even if it takes a while) you will see some success I.E get laid and this will get the ball rolling.
Once you start getting a bit of success it’s going to be easier to keep going and you will have even more success and at some point you will wake up and realize “damn I actually think I’m pretty decent with girls”.
Something else that will help a lot is getting into sales and becoming good at it. Becoming a successful salesperson is a difficult thing to do, but it will teach you a lot of things in terms of how to maintain frame during interactions, how to become socially “savy”, how to convince people, how to move things forward in every interaction.
Also if you’re good at sales, this can open the possibility to make good money and help you with girls at the same time.
Starting off is difficult but it gets easier and easier. If you’re in the early stages just know that it is not always going to be that hard and that it gets easier the more you try.
Don’t Listen to What People Might Think
When you will start spending most of your time hitting on girls, people close to you will likely start having a negative opinion about all of this. This was the case for me. My few close friends and my parents even (people who really knew me), basically shared their unsolicited “2 cents” on what I was doing. Basically, they thought that it is not a serious ambition, that it is a waste of time, that it is cringy and bad. These are the people who would tell me things like “just be yourself bro”, “the women part will take care of itself”.
Why should you not listen to them?
Well before answering this question to drive my point home, let just say I write an article on how to quit heroin, but I’ve never taken heroin or taken any hard substance that is similar to it in my entire life, do you think my advice will be valuable?
The answer is probably no. Because I will not know how taking the drug feels like, and how trying to quit feels like or what practical steps to take to quit taking this substance.
In the same way people who will give you their “unsolicited” opinion don’t know how bad you feel inside, how not being able to receive any affection from any girl or any girl you find at least decent looking, feels like.
They don’t know the desperation you might be feeling by being bad with girls or with people in general.
They don’t know how it feels not to get the respect and “human decency” you think you deserve from other people. They simply don’t get it.
Most people have very average lives, with very low ambitions or goals and can’t understand why other people might have ambitions that are not considered “normal” within society. Because of that people might start shaming you for trying to get better, or shame you for not being good at it.
If you want to truly improve in terms of getting girls, you must not listen to anybody that has a negative opinion about it. What makes it a bit easier is trying to befriend people that share similar ambitions and struggles to you.
Realize You Don’t Have a Choice
If you truly feel as bad about yourself than how I used to feel like, any moment of your life will have a subtle but persistent aftertaste of shit. It will feel as if you’re not able to truly feel any happiness until something changes.
Personally if 3 years ago I did not start changing anything about myself or my life, I would have maybe become an alcoholic, a substance abuser or maybe even worse.
This is probably what being in the shittiest spot feels like. There is probably not that much worse that can happen to you. It can either get better or stay the same. You probably have nothing to lose. You don’t have a choice you have to improve.
Start Improving Your Looks
The dating marketplace has become very competitive for us men. If you’re serious about trying to get laid consistently with hot women you have to improve your looks, there is just no way around it. If you want to improve your looks but do not know where to start take a look at the article I did on this topic.
Be Patient!
I know it sucks but be patient. You’re not going to go from being afraid to talk to girls, to being an ultra-confident and smooth dude in a matter of weeks or months. You’re not going to go from being obese to having a fitness model body in a matter of weeks either. This shit takes time and it is exactly why it fucking works, it’s because more than 90% of people who will try will not stick for long enough to reach the other end of the journey.
